"There's this Idea that in portraiture, it's the photographers job to set the subject at ease. I don't believe that." -Anne Leibovitz. This quote is one of my all time favorites because essentially what she is saying is, it's ok not to connect with everyone, it's ok to let the subject be, it's ok to be yourself. In this interview she goes on to tell a short story of Robert Penn Warren dying from cancer. She asks him to take his shirt off, showing the transparency of human nature. All that he is and in it's own way, it's beautiful.
One of the most important things you can do on this planet is connect with another individual. Your connection to the subject is what makes an image worth so much and in any form there is a relationship; Nature, Wildlife, Action, Name one. On a photoshoot this is easy, just act like you're interested (thankfully 98% of the time I am). But that's temporary, in real life it can be difficult. Sometimes I'm not interested, or I can't think of anything to say, or.. they're not interested. So I'm going back to Anne on this one, It's not always my fault. Rather than pinning every relationship issue on myself, I stop and take things in for a minute. And what I find after letting go, is that the relationships I have, pass up anything you could assemble in a movie. From great friends, to bosses, to mega cuties, these wild connections are there.
If God could just say, "Yo you'll be with this person in 5 years, just chill" that would be sick. But you know me, I like running after wet lemon shoes when the tide comes in. My two recurring life lessons, go slow and let go, are definitely present in the world of dating. Life lesson in dating though: Don't pump the brakes more, just give it less gas. I know I'll be able to play stupid love songs for that amazing girl one day.
It's ok to not nail it all the time, sometimes you leave things with loose ends. You have no idea what happened but its ok, if it's meant to be it'll happen. And some photoshoots are goofy for a second, you are getting to know someone, it's ok to have a slow connection.
A photo isn't made in the camera, but on either side of it.
"Slam the truth on people" -Big Dog